안녕하세요. ^^ I teach English in a middle school in Korea. Some of my students had had a debate about this topic, "The Big Perilla Leaf Debate." It was really meaningful experience and I'd like to introduce this discussion to other students. However, I got in trouble with how to explain this imaginary situation to them. Right after I read your essay, I shouted, "That's it!" I wonder if I can copy the introductory part. Of course I'll disclose the source. Let me know it's possible. Thank you. :-)
안녕하세요 아리씨!! Sorry for sending my voice note so late! I’ve sent it right now so hopefully that’s okay! This week was so hard haha. Hope you enjoy your week💛
This is insanity. If you cannot abide by a partner touching a leaf using a utensil that is also being touched by a friend of theirs, you are absolutely entralled in a nasty possessiveness.
Pearl-clutching when my partner acts in a friendly way, that could be misconstrued as "flirting" by strangers, is a direct path towards controlling, obsessive, and cruel behavior.
Further, it's a deeply anti-social, myopic poison which sees helpfulness--much less kindness--towards another human-in such a firmly transactional frame. Helping someone separate layers of food with their utensils can be understood as flirting, but only after you have decided to completely turn your back to the rest of the world.
That this mundane, most boring of "events", cannot simply be what it is, is fantasy. It is a cold delusion to believe that such a basic offering of help MUST have ulterior motives!
The explanation about relationship culture in Korea are so interesting and offer great insight. It really helped to understand why this is such a big debate.
Here in U.S. if they are all eating together, then they are all friends, right? It's considered polite, but even more so, acceptance of the partner, to offer help. Just like in Korea when you are visiting a friend's home and the Omma puts food on your plate, it's a welcoming gesture of kindness, acceptance and being polite. 😊💖
Although, the comments V made (in one of their posts) about, 'the don't deserve to eat shrimp if they can't peel it themselves,' was pretty funny! 😃
I'm with Suga on this one, though! (his response was "it's okay.")
안녕하세요. ^^ I teach English in a middle school in Korea. Some of my students had had a debate about this topic, "The Big Perilla Leaf Debate." It was really meaningful experience and I'd like to introduce this discussion to other students. However, I got in trouble with how to explain this imaginary situation to them. Right after I read your essay, I shouted, "That's it!" I wonder if I can copy the introductory part. Of course I'll disclose the source. Let me know it's possible. Thank you. :-)
안녕하세요 아리씨!! Sorry for sending my voice note so late! I’ve sent it right now so hopefully that’s okay! This week was so hard haha. Hope you enjoy your week💛
This is insanity. If you cannot abide by a partner touching a leaf using a utensil that is also being touched by a friend of theirs, you are absolutely entralled in a nasty possessiveness.
Pearl-clutching when my partner acts in a friendly way, that could be misconstrued as "flirting" by strangers, is a direct path towards controlling, obsessive, and cruel behavior.
Further, it's a deeply anti-social, myopic poison which sees helpfulness--much less kindness--towards another human-in such a firmly transactional frame. Helping someone separate layers of food with their utensils can be understood as flirting, but only after you have decided to completely turn your back to the rest of the world.
That this mundane, most boring of "events", cannot simply be what it is, is fantasy. It is a cold delusion to believe that such a basic offering of help MUST have ulterior motives!
Have you been shown such unkindness?
How much must you hate your fellow man?
The explanation about relationship culture in Korea are so interesting and offer great insight. It really helped to understand why this is such a big debate.
Here in U.S. if they are all eating together, then they are all friends, right? It's considered polite, but even more so, acceptance of the partner, to offer help. Just like in Korea when you are visiting a friend's home and the Omma puts food on your plate, it's a welcoming gesture of kindness, acceptance and being polite. 😊💖
Although, the comments V made (in one of their posts) about, 'the don't deserve to eat shrimp if they can't peel it themselves,' was pretty funny! 😃
I'm with Suga on this one, though! (his response was "it's okay.")